The Babywise book recommends the biological opposite of a mother's natural hormone-driven response. Women in general are more "touchy-feely" than men and seek close emotional attachments with others. Mothers also have hormonal reasons for seeking emotional attachments, especially with their babies.
1.Ezzo puts limitations on the relationships in the hope of raising a moral child. He warns against carrying a baby "too much" and giving it too much attention.
2. Ezzo limits feedings.
The book tells parents to start with a schedule on Day One, putting the newborn on a 2 1/2 to three-hour schedule. This may seem reasonable, but biology dictates otherwise. The best way to feed a newborn, fresh from his continuous intrauterine nutrient supply, is early and often. To limit the length or the frequency from day one is a mistake that will affect long term breastfeeding success. Many mothers who follow the Ezzo schedule do well for the first few months, but suddenly around 4-5 months it becomes apparent that their milk supply has dwindled and baby is starving.
3. Ezzo manipulates nap times.
Baby is to be put in the crib, tired or not, where he must learn to fall asleep on schedule. Even if he cried for an hour and has only been asleep 20 minutes, baby is to be woken from his short nap for a scheduled feed.
4. Ezzo is indifferent to a baby's crying. The book explains how to put limits on feedings and limits on naptimes, but then insists parents do nothing to limit the baby's crying.
Notice that? Ezzo limits those times which are generally pleasant, calming experiences for babies (nursing and sleeping) but any amount of distress and crying is acceptable.
1. A mother feeding on demand will generally nurse 10 - 12 times per day. The Parent-Directed Feeding schedule limits the number of daily feedings to 8 - 9.5 times. A baby deprived of up to four feedings a day will be hungrier than its demand-fed neighbour.
2. Not only that, but the Ezzo baby will spend up to 4 hours a day crying himself to sleep. Crying uses calories.
3. The PDF baby whose crying doesn't bring feedings and whose feedings are limited no longer will cry when hungry as it becomes accustomed to the lesser milk supply. This shows up on the scales around 4-6 months of age, when the baby finally seems to have settled into the routine.
1) Since their cries are not answered anyway, they stop crying.
2) Mothers become so accustomed to ignoring the baby's crying that they actually stop hearing it. The mother may actually believe her baby is sleeping through the night because she has trained herself not to hear it. This occurs the same way we stop noticing a clock chiming every hour, or traffic sounds when you live on a busy street, or a rooster crowing at dawn when you live on a farm.
3) A common emotional defense mechanism for feelings of hopelessness is sleep. Babies who cannot deal with their feelings of despair will shut down. Adults suffering from depression often sleep excessive amounts. Sadly, for the Babywised infant, excessive sleeping is seen as proof of how well the Babywise system 'works.'